Not every life milestone needs to be public.

In a world where people post literally everything, from what they’re eating to their biggest life moments in real time, choosing silence can feel like rebellion. But for me, it was protection. I made the intentional decision to keep both my engagement and my second pregnancy private. No Instagram announcement. No Facebook gender reveal or baby shower. No long captions filled with excitement and lovie dovie emojies. Just peace.

And you know what? That decision was sacred.

This blog isn’t about hiding. It’s about healing, reclaiming your space, and honoring the parts of your life that deserve privacy. If you’ve ever felt like you needed to protect your peace—even if it meant keeping joy to yourself—this is for you.

The Importance of Privacy During Major Transitions

After surviving narcissistic abuse and enduring the family court system, I learned that not everyone deserves access to every part of me. Big life changes—whether joyful or painful—can be incredibly vulnerable. Keeping those sacred moments close helped me focus on what really mattered: my healing, my mental health, and my growing family.

Privacy gave me room to feel every emotion—without performance. There was excitement, and joy, and there were also some levels of fear and anxiety, but I wasn’t performing for likes. I wasn’t crafting captions. I was just living it. Fully. Quietly. Powerfully.

Protecting Your Peace in the Digital Age

Social media can be beautiful… but it can also be extremely judgmental, and draining. There’s this unspoken pressure to share everything as soon as it happens, to prove your joy, express your love, or validate your milestones. But I’ve never been one to move for validation.

I move for peace.

Choosing not to share allowed me to separate my joy from public opinion. I wasn’t interested in unsolicited advice, opinions about my relationship, or backhanded comments about my pregnancy. And honestly, I didn’t owe anyone access or answers.

My life is beautiful for real, I don’t need a post to prove it.

Navigating Boundaries with Family and Friends

Let me be honest—everyone doesn’t take your silence well. Some people feel entitled to know your every move. I had to get really clear on my boundaries. I didn’t lie. I just didn’t offer. If someone asked directly, I shared as much as I felt safe to share, and no more. Some people didn’t understand, that was okay too. My life doesn’t need to make sense to anyone but me.

Setting my boundaries required courage, especially with people who love to insert themselves in my personal life. But I learned to say, “This is something I’m keeping close right now,” and leave it at that.

How Maintaining My Privacy Helped Me Focus on What Matters

When you strip away the noise, you can hear yourself think. Keeping my engagement and pregnancy private allowed me slow down. I could dream about my future without interference. I could be present for my children without distraction. It brought me clarity. It brought me stillness. It brought me closer to the version of myself I’d been fighting to return to.

Sometimes the most grounding thing you can do is move in silence and let the world catch up later.

My life isn’t “content”. It’s real. I choose what I share.

Make Empowered Choices

If you’re in a season where you’re craving privacy—take it.

If you want to announce your life events months later—do it.

If you never want to share at all—that’s your prerogative and that’s okay too!

This is your life. You alone, choose what’s sacred and what’s shared.

There’s power in writing your story on your terms. Your peace is yours to protect. Your privacy is not a secret—it’s a boundary. And boundaries are healthy, holy, and life-saving.

You don’t owe the internet—or anyone—your joy, your pain, your milestones, or your healing.

Take up the space you choose to take, and reserve whatever you choose to keep sacred.

Move quietly, loudly, or somewhere in between.

Just make sure you’re the one holding the pen.

I’d love to hear from you—have you ever kept something private for your own peace? Drop a comment or send me a message. Your story is safe here.